i first went on tinder in 2015, after about 15 years of being out of the dating world.social media being used to meet people was very new grounds for me.but i was lonely as fuck and had absolutely no friends, no family support no support at all.so i found them online.this one friend i met was a virgo, weed smoker, awesome listener, cute ass face and body, sweet as fuck, intelligent, neat, sensitive.i fucking fell hard and fast.we would sit for hours talking and smoking, i would vent all my troubles, he would listen and comfort.at home my ex would start fights because we still lived together and we’d scream and my only reprieve was the bubble of safety he created for me.when we hung out it didnt feel like it had been 4 hours, but merely minutes.i couldnt get enough of him, but then money started getting tight, had to buy my own car and pay all the rent, and i couldnt drive up to him anymore without it being a burden, i started to feel a bit resentful that i always drove up there, though it wasn’t his fault, i’d created that to be the norm.

i dated someone 10 months that i met on tinder, which was my 2nd longest relationship ever, so that was an accomplishment for having met on tinder.he was about 9 years younger.super fit, cute, a little taller than me, intelligent, neat,funny, and kinky.he was an aries, we were air and fire, feeding and firing each other up. passion and possessiveness. i went back to my old ways on this one.he broke up with me 2 times, who knew how many more times it would happen, if he didnt want me, i can take the hint.it took me another 7 months to fully let go though, but it didnt count as a bfgf relationship because of the breakups.

i’ve been lied to a lot on tinder.but that first year had me learning lessons left and right.i met a really tall pretty guy, he was easy going, we went to beach the first time we met and it was just so easy.he was a sagittarius, another fire sign.he fell for me as quickly as i did for him.unfortunately he was not actually completely broken up with his partner and so i am now the enemy even though he told me he was single.his partner then contacted me on facebook to leave her man alone, so i stopped contacting him, because he kept trying to reach out to me.another guy i had met up woth we just talked once, never made out or anything just a hug good bye, but his partner created an instagram using my face calling me a whore, i reported it and her main account and then i just stopped being harrassed.i dunno what happened lol but i was glad.i was feeling way too old for that social media bullshit.

i’ve found people that just anger me, or rub me the wrong way, and i thought, damn i am so glad i never have to see this person again, while at the same time they are talking about what we should be doing next time, bitch, don’t you see how aggravated i am, i never wanna see you again!i’ve found people who had such bad breath that i had to stop seeing them because i didn’t know how to tell them that i was repulsed by the smell and that it was turning me off.though ghosting probably doesnt feel as good either.i’m working on it now though, telling people when something bothers me.if they care to fix it they can and if they don’t i have my answer.

so what i have learned from my experiences???? ❤ just cause i’m honest doesnt mean everyone else will be ❤ just cause someone is cute or has money does not mean i can accept having no compatibility ❤ know what i want before looking ❤ be aware ❤ tell people where you are going ❤ always meet in public spaces ❤ have your own form of transportation (a ride, money enough to get your own lyft home) ❤ trust your gut, if you have a bad feeling you can always cancel, or leave (thats why its best to be somewhere public)